you can't change anyone
At a dinner party a few nights ago with me and two couples:
tiny: I guess you just can't really change anyone.
He of couple: Yeah, that's funny, we're still trying to change the same things about each other that we were five years ago when we started dating.
Her of couple (looking surprised at this revelation): Yeah, that's true. (clearly was thinking about going into more detail here) ....yeah.